The couples who are a good fit for the Relationship Enrichment services provided here at AVL Couples Therapy possess certain characteristics.
They’re very insightful and are usually ahead of the game. Although these couples may not know the specific research – that, on average, couples tend to wait 6 years to seek therapy from the time they begin having significant relationship problems – they understand that relationships are to be nurtured instead of neglected. They don’t wait until the relationship has completely fallen apart before they begin to put it back together again.
These couples are committed to one another and to the process of making their relationship epic. They want to be together more than anything and are willing to do whatever it takes to make their relationship not just survive, but thrive.
They actually like one another. You may laugh at this one, but it’s a very important part of the enrichment work that we will do together. Being mean to each other, such as being critical or contemptuous, will slowly erode the fondness you have for one another and destroy your relationship. Being fond of your partner doesn’t mean that you are going to love everything that they do. We’re human, you know. But it does mean that you care about your partner and do not want to hurt them.
I would venture to say that if you’ve made it this far, your relationship is pretty awesome – and you would like for it to stay that way. Sure, there may a few kinks to untangle as we work together, but you and your partner have got this! We will build on this awesomeness to enhance and strengthen your relationship even further so that you will be prepared to weather through any storms that may come your way.
Gottman Method Couples Therapy
The Relationship Enrichment services provided here at AVL Couples Therapy are based on Gottman Method Couples Therapy, a goal-oriented and scientifically-based approach built upon over 40 years of research.
The effectiveness of this approach can, in-part, be attributed to the in-depth assessment of the relationship’s strengths and needs before beginning treatment. Therefore, the first three sessions are assessment only.
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The assessment phase serves several beneficial purposes. You and your partner will get a sense of my style as a therapist and will be able to determine if you would like to continue working with me.
This phase also allows me to get a better understanding of your relationship so that I can determine if I will be the best therapist to meet your needs as a couple. More than anything I want you to get exactly what you need, whether I’m the therapist that can provide that for you or not.
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Session One will consist of a warm welcome and a review of my office policies and informed consent. I will then invite you two to share the story of your relationship, the history of your relationship, and your relationship philosophy in order to gain a greater understanding of your unique experience as a couple.
At the end of the session I will give you instructions to complete the Gottman Relationship Checkup, an integral part to enriching your relationship.
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Gottman Relationship Checkup
The Gottman Relationship Checkup is an online assessment that thoroughly assesses a couple’s strengths and challenges. The checkup consists of 480 questions about friendship, intimacy, how well you know your partner, how you manage emotions and conflict, how you share your values and goals, and what gives meaning to your lives. There are additional questions about parenting, housework, finances, trust, and individual areas of concern.
Set aside 2 hours to complete this assessment. I know, 2 hours can be a long time. But it would take many sessions and hundreds of dollars for me to gather the information contained in this online assessment. So, by taking the assessment you are saving both time and money. And you are getting research-based results and recommendations specific to your relationship.
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Session Two will be shared between you and your partner. I will meet with each of you individually for 45 minutes. During this time you will be able to share your own story of what brings you to therapy and discuss how you feel about the relationship. We will also explore any family history that you believe will be relevant to the process. Topics will include your commitment to the relationship, your hopes and expectations, and your personal goals.
It’s important to note that I have a No Secrets Policy. This means that I will not keep information said in this session confidential from your partner. Secrets can create an alliance between the therapist and one partner, which can be damaging to the therapeutic relationship.
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We all return together for Session Three, the final phase of the assessment. By this time I will have received your completed online assessment (Gottman Relationship Checkup). I will summarize the results of your assessment using the Sound Relationship House, and discuss goals for treatment.
At this point in time, the assessment phase is winding down and it will be time for you and your partner to decide if you would like to continue working with me. If you decide to proceed, we will collaboratively develop goals for treatment.
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Treatment and Interventions
Session 4, and subsequent sessions, will consist of research-based treatment and interventions specific to your relationship. There are three main domains for therapeutic goals. They focus on managing conflict constructively, enhancing friendship and intimacy, and creating shared meaning.
So, to summarize, I practice from the Gottman Method Couples Therapy model, a research-based, structured, and goal-oriented approach. The first three sessions are assessment only. We begin treatment and interventions in Session 4. Then we work on conflict, friendship, and meaning.
If you would like to enrich your relationship and this is an approach you can get behind, please contact me to schedule a free phone consultation to see if we are a good fit.
- Includes Gottman Relationship Checkup
- Two Individual Sessions (45 minutes)
- Goal Setting
- Treatment & Intervention
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