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Fix Before 6

Fix Before 6

The Research Research shows that couples wait an average of 6 years of being unhappy before they seek any support for their relationship. This statistic comes from the over-40-years of research by Dr. John Gottman. If you want couples therapy to be effective, you...

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Is A Couples Workshop Right For Us?

Is A Couples Workshop Right For Us?

You may have seen a Couples Workshop advertised and, although you were intrigued, you still had many questions and weren’t sure if it would be right for you and your mate. It’s possible you were considering if your relationship was just troubled enough to justify...

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How To Make Couples Therapy Successful

How To Make Couples Therapy Successful

After reviewing that laundry list of factors in the previous post that interfere with the success of couples therapy, check out this more hopeful list. In order to make the most out of couples therapy, keep these simple guidelines in mind.   Prioritize Make...

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Why Is Couples Therapy Unsuccessful?

Why Is Couples Therapy Unsuccessful?

I want to get real here and address some important aspects of couples therapy. Couples therapy sometimes gets a bad rap of being ineffective. And in all honesty, it’s true. There are many factors that contribute to the futile nature of this type of therapy. Here I’m...

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The Self-Care Dilemma

The Self-Care Dilemma

Today's guest post is written by Sarah E. Clark, LMFT, LMHC, CVRT. Sarah is the owner of Clark Counseling Solutions in Indianapolis, Indiana and she is the creator of the Idealationship app. How do you make self-care work in the context of your relationship? In her...

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A Couples Approach to Substance Abuse

A Couples Approach to Substance Abuse

Relationship difficulties can be compounded when your partner struggles with a substance abuse problem. But, there's good news, Behavioral Couples Therapy (BCT) can help. In her guest post, Lindsay Melka, LPC shares exactly what BCT is and how it can help your...

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7 Reasons You Are Struggling With Love

7 Reasons You Are Struggling With Love

The world of dating, love, relationships, and marriage can be a bit overwhelming at times. Has it always been this difficult? Or does modern society have something to do with it? As you take a look at the current status of your relationship, consider these 7 reasons...

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Weekend Activity: Netflix & Chill

Weekend Activity: Netflix & Chill

No matter if you want to LITERALLY Netflix & Chill, or Netflix & Chill as it has come to be known in pop culture, there’s something for you in this post. If Netflix & Chill (in either capacity) is your usual routine, continue on because rituals are...

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The Four Horsemen Blog Series – #4 Stonewalling

The Four Horsemen Blog Series – #4 Stonewalling

Welcome back to the Four Horsemen Blog Series. This is the final post in this series so, if you haven’t done so already, read about the first three horsemen – Criticism, Contempt, and Defensiveness – before continuing below. The Fourth Horseman – Stonewalling To...

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The Four Horsemen Blog Series – #3 Defensiveness

The Four Horsemen Blog Series – #3 Defensiveness

Welcome back to the Four Horsemen Blog Series. This is the third of four posts in this series. Be sure to read about the first horseman, Criticism, and the second horsemen, Contempt. The Third Horseman – Defensiveness Defensiveness is traditionally defined as being...

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The Four Horsemen Blog Series – #2 Contempt

The Four Horsemen Blog Series – #2 Contempt

Welcome to the Four Horsemen Blog Series. This is the second of four posts in this series. Be sure to read the first post for an introduction and overview of the series. Additionally, you will want to learn all about the first horseman – criticism. The Second Horseman...

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The Four Horsemen Blog Series – #1 Criticism

The Four Horsemen Blog Series – #1 Criticism

Introduction To The Four Horsemen Blog Series For those of you who are not familiar with Dr. John Gottman, he is a superstar to those of us in the world of couples therapy. He has spent the last 40+ years completing groundbreaking research on thousands of couples. I...

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Weekend Activity: Beat The Heat

Weekend Activity: Beat The Heat

This weekend activity is inspired by the beautiful, sunny, warm weather we’ve been having here in Asheville, and will continue to have, provided the forecast holds true. We live in the perfect location to beat the heat, with so many creeks, rivers, and lakes in our...

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Weekend Activity: Build A Campfire

Weekend Activity: Build A Campfire

The nights have been great for warming up by a nice toasty campfire. This weekend, plan to spend a few hours with your sweetie around a campfire or firepit. Here’s what you do:   1) Tell your favorite scary campfire story.   I remember when I was a kid there...

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