Weekend Activity: Water Your (Relationship) Grass
If you read this week’s blog post entitled Divorce May Not Solve As Many Problems As You Think, you are probably familiar with the “grass is greener syndrome” as it relates to your relationship.
In addition to relationships, you can experience this syndrome with your career, friendships, and even with where you live. Simply put, the “grass is greener syndrome” is the belief that you are missing out on something better – elsewhere.
When these beliefs get out of hand, we start to place more value on fantasy than we do on the stability and comfort of what we have right in front of us. Practicing gratitude can help bring you back to appreciating your partner like you did in the beginning of your relationship.
If the grass in your relationship is dead, brown, and crumpled – it didn’t happen by accident. You have been neglecting to water it, and have probably been keeping it from the sunshine as well.
Here is a simple tool that can assist you in getting back to a place of appreciation in your relationship. Take a piece of paper and write three things on it each day that reflect gratitude, appreciation, or admiration of your partner.
You can also add some ideas for activities or an action on your part to bring some sunshine and happiness back into your relationship.
- What do you admire or appreciate about your partner?
- What is it about your partner that you are grateful for?
- What are some good memories you have of you and your partner?
- What do you and your partner enjoy that brings you both happiness?
- What is something you can do for your partner to show your appreciation?
- What action can you take to put a smile on your partner’s face?
Continue this exercise for 21 days, by putting the pieces of paper into a jar. At the end of the 21 days, have your partner open the jar and read the contents.
You can do this solo and surprise your partner, or you two can commit to the activity together.
Just be sure that you have acted on some of the activities or actions that you are writing about during the 21 days.
Hopefully, through this activity, you can begin to bring some hydration and sunshine back to the grass in your relationship.
My Appreciation For You…
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Just to show you how grateful I am that you are here reading and learning on the AVL Couples Therapy website, I want to let you know that the January newsletter will give you an opportunity to win an awesome book by Dr. John Gottman found on the resources page.
All you will need to do to enter is to complete a small task on one of the AVL Couples Therapy social media accounts. This task, as well as the title of the book, will be revealed in January’s newsletter to be sent out this Sunday.
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Stay tuned for a new and inspiring post on Monday…
and check back next Thursday for a new Weekend Activity!